Here comes the slay: Bridal party destination goals


Exactly this time 10 years ago, I was preparing for one the most anticipated milestones of a woman’s life: my wedding. August was a pretty big month for weddings.  My friends and I were getting married left and right.  And based on my Instagram timeline, that pattern appears to still hold true today . In fact, that observation is what inspired this blog post. Lately, I’ve seen so many dope bridal/bachelorette Instagram pics flooding my timeline, that it made me reflect on my own experience 10 years ago. In my heart of hearts, I adore weddings. And contrary to popular belief, I love “LOVE”. I love the notion of finding someone to share your life with through good times and bad and the people you love the most coming together to celebrate it with you. Back then, my friends gave me both an awesome bridal shower and bachelorette party. But unfortunately, I don’t have many photos from those two important events. You see, this was long before iPhones, androids, selfie sticks, and the social media craze that dominates our world today. And one of my biggest regrets from that experience has been not having any pictures of me a my bridal squad to reflect on from the those events. However, the moments of those near and dear to me, coming together to celebrate my new beginning will always be etched in my memory.Hindsight is 20/20. If I could do it all over again, my bridal party and I would grab our passports and do a destination bachelorette party in the Caribbean. We would get into formation and capture dope images like these listed below.  Sadly, my marriage didn’t last.  But the good news is: I may one day get a second chance to re-create those memories again, if even still exists then.  Here’s to making lemonade out of lemons…and here comes the slay!



Credit: @envisiblewoman (Dominican Republic)


Credit: @mckenzieinthemirror (South Beach, Miami)


Credit: @magfabulous (South Beach, Miami)


Credit: @naturally_nakia (Punta Cana)


Credit: @mygirlsquad


Credit: @dino_teme (Cancun)


Credit: @enikobaby (Punta Cana)


Credit: @lolizee21 (Chichen Itza in Cancun)


Credit: @shaq_will (Cabos San Lucas)


Credit: @en_es_em (Cabos San Lucas)



Embracing sisterhood: Travel squad inspiration


I promote solo travel often in my blog, because it’s a fairly new experience for me. But I must admit one truth: I MISS MY GIRLFRIEND GETAWAYS. I miss the late night girl locker room talks, being silly, catching up on life, seeking advice, and being surrounded by those that “get” me and still love me in spite of my shortcomings. Overall, I guess once could say that I miss my sister friend connections. Through the years, I’ve lost many of those connections. Some were by choice and others were due to life taking us in different directions. And there’s no love lost. We get married, we have children, we pursue advanced degrees, we start business ventures, we get promoted into demanding positions, we have aging parents that require our attention, and we even relocate. I get it, life happens. In the midst of balancing life’s demands, friendships sometimes fall the wayside. But, as truthful as this all sounds, it would be dishonest of me to blame all of my lost connections on life changes. The truth is, while I excel in attracting connections, I suck at maintaining them. I don’t know if I should blame it on my introverted personality or my Gemini cusp Cancer moon sign. I don’t know if I should blame it on my desire to retreat and cut myself off from the world when I’m going through life’s storms. And I don’t know if it’s my pride in being self-sufficient and feeling like I don’t need anyone. But whatever the reason, none of those should ever be an excuse. Friendship/sisterhood is a reciprocal relationship. Just like a marriage or any other relationship of significance, it requires effort by both parties. It requires communication and reaching out. It requires giving and sacrificing. It requires you calling to check in when you don’t feel like it. It requires you to show up to baby showers and children’s parties when you’d rather do a child-free event, because motherhood is a touchy subject for you. It requires you to be vulnerable and let your friends know that you’re going through something and you need help (or you’re still okay). To maintain a friendship, you have to be a friend – a very basic exchange, one that I struggle with getting right.

I hope to have those kind of connections again someday. But until then, in honor of my nostalgia, I bring you my top Instagram Travel Squad photos that will make you want to phone your sister friends, organize your travel squad (or rent one), and get into travel formation. Here’s to not taking our friendships for granted…here’s to restoring our sister friend connections…and here’s to making new connections. And remember, friendships must be nurtured or they will eventually die.


ATVs in Cancun (Credit: @pglammednyc)


Formation in Bali (Credit: @dispoetzsoul)


Rio slayage at the Parque Lage in Brazil (Credit: @ashcaldc)


Sisterhood in Paris (Credit: jonesin4jonesy)


Caping in Madrid, Spain (Credit: @theslaycation)


An effortless slay in Salvador De Bahia, Brazil (Credit: @jnambowa)


Formation in Castillo San Cristobal, San Juan Puerto Rico (Credit: @akafly12)


Bridal squad goals at the Chichen Itza, Cancun Mexico (Credit: @lolizee21_)


Bridal squad goals continued (Credit: @lolizee21)


That one time Cartagena, Colombia wasn’t ready (Credit: @hunnibre)


One of my last sisterfriend trips with my Sorors to Curacao back in 2014 (Credit: @urbantravelista)